Master and Pet also being lovers?

Master was asked the question/s;

"Do you both love each other outside of the roleplay? Is it possible to have a strong and 'normal' relationship while holding onto the D/s side?"



I think I should first start off by saying: we are both normal people. We eat, sleep and poop as well as everyone else. The side of us portrayed in this blog shows more, if not completely, our Domination and Submission side. I just want everyone to know we are people too, with hopes, dreams and aspirations. Just because we love being stricken down by a whip or tied to posts and be made into a sex slave makes us bad or weird people. Just because we can't wait to have our pet's throat in our hands and their bodies beneath us makes us strange or undesirable people. Everyone has 'preferences' or fetishes. From people who would prefer to sleep with a blonde, to people who wish to be sliced up, burned and drowned; we are just like you.

My love for pet (I wish at this time to not disclose her real name) is so strong, I have never felt like this for anyone. The only thing that outweighs my love for her is my love for music. The notion of getting into BDSM came way after starting to date her, meaning, I do not love her only because she knows precisely how to take my cock, it's infinitely more then that.

In my eyes, she is perfect for me. She is everything I need and want, everything I need and want for myself and for the side of me known as Master. She treats me with more respect then I believe I deserve, again, for both sides of our relationship. I hold her very close to my heart, and while I have her, I'm afraid to lose her.

Pet holds the same feelings for me, and seeing as we started the relationship with not a whisper about BDSM and what it means to us, we loved each other before Master and pet begun. So to answer your question about loving each other outside of the roleplay, it's very much a yes.



As for the next question though, it is very possible. One would think that because of how D/s relationships work, it would be awkward or weird to have a 'normal' relationship (normal meaning vanilla... I'm guessing). If one would think that, they would be wrong. The trust and respect between all parties involved in an act is incredible. You're giving someone the power to absolutely destroy both you, and your mind. In the act of some heavier BDSM, you would be playing with blades, flames, breath-play (Choking, drowning etc.) because of the dangerous equipment used, you literally would have to trust them with your life. Now of course, the videos you see on some sites will have the Dominators be medically trained in case of emergency. Not only this, but in every instance of an act of BDSM (let me rephrase to any 'normal' act of BDSM) there are ways to stop the act, no matter what they are doing. Let it be a word, a phrase, a gesture or even a look. If shit isn't going the way the submissive wants, or if it gets too heavy and they aren't up for it, they can do a lot to stop the act from continuing.

This came to me one day when exploring BDSM and for some reason it creeped me out; watch a video of a girl getting whipped by a guy, her body covered in clamps; bruises and welts all over her. Blood may be here or there, she looks like she hates it, screaming and whimpering in pain. Let me be clear so you all can remember this.


SHE WANTS THIS.

She literally wants every part of what that video shows. If she didn't, the video wouldn't contain it, she would say/do/gesture to the Dom and film crew to stop.

The notion that the dom and sub in that video go home, eat sleep and poop used to almost scare me. The notion that people hand-made the set, the tools used and written the script and what would happen in video used to scare me. The notion that the people in video might be in a relationship, that they have a family, it used to scare me.

People can dominate and be dominated and still have lives.

This kind of turned into a rant. My bad.


I hope this answered your questions, roughly, thank you very much for asking!

Feel free to ask anything, I'm an open book, ask away!


Her Authoritative Master ~